Kako vratiti bivšu devojku?
1) Da li je zaista vredno toga?
2) Minimiziraj kontakt u početku
3) Vreme je za pregrupisanje (imaš dodatno vreme za obogaćivanje životnog stila, rad na samopouzdanju, nivou generalnog zadovoljstva u životu…)
4) Postani generalno bolji sa ženama
5) Tek sada je vreme da se obnovi kontakt
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1) Is she really worth it?
2) Are you worried that your ex-girlfriend was “as good as you’re going to get”?
If you feel that way, it’ll be harder to get her back (or keep her).
Anyway, regardless of how amazing she was, you can date women who are just as interesting. You got her, right? Why can’t you get someone of equal quality again?
Unless you are 100% convinced (really convinced…not faking it) that you can attract women at and above her level, you WILL lose her.
3) Minimize contact with her for a few months.
Let me list a few things that are unattractive to most women:
• Big, fat, hairy beer bellies
• Their best friend’s kid brother who follows them around like a puppy dog
• Adult diapers
• The ex-boyfriend who hangs around everywhere and wants her back
If you want her back, it will show. You need some distance. Even if you’re being cool.
E.g., you and her coincidentally end up at the same party. Even if you didn’t follow her there or get in her way, she may still think it’s „weird“ that you’re there („weird“ is like „creepy“ – it’s an ambiguously-defined word women use that sticks – it’s really hard to come back from). Maybe she thinks you’re obsessed, or stalking. Maybe she gets upset because your very presence is „cockblocking“ her (even if you don’t care). And so on.
4) If you’re in her social circle…
In that case, minimize your time together without making it seem like you’re going out of your way to avoid her.
Don’t talk about her. If you have to, be positive and then change the subject. This goes double for her dating life. It goes triple for the circumstances surrounding your breakup or anything about your relationship with her.
Don’t show off. Don’t go out of your way to bring other women around her or mutual friends. Live your life and do what you’d normally do, but err on the side of caution.
Yes, Pre-selection (being attractive to other women) is one of the key things that attract especially beautiful women. But you don’t want her to feel that you are pre-selected bit by bit. When you re-initiate in a few months (see below), you want it to be a big bang.
You want her wondering, “who is this guy I let get away?”
Something about you should change before you re-initiate contact.
(We’ll get to the biggest change you need to make, next)
Whether it’s a new job, a new hobby, a change to your dress style, something – and it need only be one thing – should change.
Since women are attracted first and then figure out the “reasons” later, you want to make it as easy as possible for women to find reasons to be interested in you, once you’ve hit some attraction spikes.
These “reasons” can be arbitrary. I’ve had women insist…INSIST that they slept with me because I’m a Libra and Libras are so balanced and in touch with themselves. Or because I drink gin. Or because I have “nice eyes”.
So you need to help her out with some kind of arbitrary change so she notices something different when you re-initiate contact.
This also reinforces that you should stay away from her in the meantime. It’s hard to notice change when you’re too close. You’ll never see the grass grow by staring at it.
6) Get Better with Women in General
Yes, I know you’re still convinced you just want that one girl.
I don’t care. In fact, I won’t even believe you until you’ve shown me that you can get women who are as attractive (or more) than her, and that you still want her. Otherwise my guess is you’re rationalizing, just like a woman who sleeps with me because I’m a Libra.
But even if I did believe you, I still wouldn’t care. You still need to get better with women in general.
Think of top golfer Tiger Woods. He rarely trains for any specific golf course. He practices the fundamentals of golf – driving, putting, and so on.
Maybe before a tournament he refreshes a bit on the course, but that’s it. Tiger Woods gets better at golf; he doesn’t get better at a specific golf course.
For all of this to have an effect, you need to get better with women in general.
Learn the skills. Get experience using them. Success breeds success. Women can “smell” a man who is comfortable with beautiful women and able to keep up with them. And men who are not.
7) Then, and only then, re-initiate contact
When you’re ready – that is, when you are confidently and consistently attracting women who are as attractive as her or better – only then can you re-initiate contact with her from a position of strength.
Whatever you do, when you re-initiate USE THE LOVE SYSTEMS TRIAD. If you make her feel emotionally close to you but not physically (or you miss the opportunity physically because your logistics were wrong) you’ll doom yourself to yet more time in “Let’s Just Be Friends” land.
8) Don’t mess it up again.
When you re-initiate contact with her, act like you’re in the “Dating/Undefined” category of relationships.
Dating/Undefined is somewhat like treating every time you see her as the 2nd or 3rd date. Have that frame.
If you’re not familiar with this, learn Love Systems Relationship Management. It covers everything from how to get into every kind of relationship (one girlfriend, threesomes, multiple girlfriends, one night stands, hookups, etc.), how to manage each one, how to move between, and more. It’s also the only place where we released “the model” – how you can predict when and how your girlfriend might cheat and also what you can do about it (it’s not what you think):
It’s gone wrong once. Don’t let it go wrong again.